Learning to celebrate in my own time on social media

Social media can pressure us to share things before we are ready. In this post I discuss only celebrating achievements when YOU are ready to.

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Recently I shared a post on my Instagram celebrating getting an internship at JUSTICE. The internship had actually taken place a year prior. Why had I waited a year to share the post? Simply because I wasn’t ready to celebrate it yet.

“But Blessing!” I hear you cry, “why wouldn’t you want everyone to know about it straight away?!” The truth is that I hadn’t fully processed the achievement and the experience until around a year later when Bar school finally finished and I properly took stock of my life over the past two years.

(Over)doing it for the Gram

It seems that in this era of social media you are expected to share every experience and everything that happens to you straight away. People also expect a serious amount of detail and personal reflection to go into what you share. For example, around this time I see a lot of tweets and posts about peoples’ graduations that explain in extremely great detail what it took to get them to the stage of graduating.  I was also one of these people after graduating. Whilst I’m happy for these people, I’ve become conscious of how that’s a really big personal moment and something that they may have only given themselves about an hour or two to reflect over before sharing a post for the world.

Keeping my business to myself

Personally, I don’t necessarily need to celebrate every win straight away. There’s a big reason for this: I want time to process and contextualise the win before I can celebrate it.  I was having a conversation with a friend from Bar school who was telling me that I don’t celebrate enough and it’s important for my mental health that I do. I understood what she was saying; she meant that I shouldn’t let big milestones and achievements go by without acknowledging them. She’s right, to overwork yourself to the point that you don’t even celebrate when you’ve done well is extremely unhealthy.

The thing I’m advocating for here is to celebrate those wins by yourself or with people that you love and care about before you share them with the world. Applying this strategy for the past two years at Law School has proved to work really well for me. There really is a sense that because things are so competitive, people can find themselves feeling alienated if you are celebrating wins whilst others are still processing fresh rejections or losses. Unfairly or not, you can come off as someone who is obnoxious or just lacks a bit of tact if you conduct yourself that way.  

Let the wins marinate over time

Beyond providing you with a way of navigating really tough and competitive social spaces, keeping things to yourself or celebrating privately before you do so publicly can also be helpful because you need time to process and understand the impact that win or achievement had upon your life. Often at Law School, the wins and achievements are merely stepping stones and what’s followed is a period of time where you are required to perform or be in a role for a prolonged period of time. For example, had I celebrated my internship publicly before completing it I would have been speaking without knowing what was going to happen over the two month placement. At that stage, I was in no position to articulate the impact that experience had up on me. I knew nothing of the highs and lows.

Ease the pressure

The problem with wanting to speak on things straight away and go public with them is that you can actually create a massive amount of pressure for yourself. Once you’ve told the world that something incredible or amazing has been brought into your life people are going to be interested and they’re going to want to see that this incredible amazing opportunity has lived up to everything that you wanted it to (or everything that they expected it to). Don’t forget that people will also have their own perceptions of you. People are also looking at you and developing an understanding of your character. That is a massive amount of mental pressure to put yourself under before you even fully embrace something or have time to experience it. 

Anything can happen. That dream job could become a nightmare. You might be a first class graduate in Engineering who decides to switch and go to Art School. You might struggle with your mental health and not be able to finish something you started. Anything can happen and keeping things close to your chest until you’re ready can be crucial to your survival.

Less outward, more inward reflection

It’s also important to remember that reflecting on your experiences and being introspective is an essential element of what’s going to help you gain pupillage or further experiences. You need to give yourself time to process and reflect before you’re able to explain the impact of things up on your life and to understand where they rank in the wider context of your life and career. On paper an achievement may seem to be a big one but then in context may end up being kind of insignificant and something you’re never going to refer to again.

Guard yourself and your mental health. Try and keep those big things to yourself and process them thoroughly before you go to the world. 

Until next time,

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Blessing Mukosha Park

I'm a Future Barrister, Digital Entrepreneur and Content Creator. This blog is partially a journal and also a guide for aspiring barristers to consult and guide them during their journey. I hope reading this blog motivates, educates and inspires you. I currently live in East London and you will find me working on my laptop or in front of a camera. Say hi if you see me around!

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